How to get self-esteem ‘on tap’

In order to have resilience, we need a reasonably high level of self-esteem.


When faced with challenges, it’s vital to feel a sense of self-worth and a belief in your own abilities.


Without it, you may struggle to find the necessary confidence to bounce back from the challenges we face.


But where does self-esteem come from?


Many people have a problem when it comes to self-esteem; they either have too little, or too much!


High, but fragile, self-esteem can lead to arrogance or narcissism. This doesn’t lead to resilience – in fact it can lead to the opposite.


Self-esteem needs to come from more than one source in order to make it a constant in our lives.


Otherwise, if you lose your one source of self-esteem, such as your looks or athletic ability, then you have nothing to fall back upon.


In 2001, Jennifer Crocker, professor of psychology at the University of Michigan identified seven ‘domains’ of self-esteem:




Family support

Academic competence

Physical attractiveness

Approval of others

Outdoing others in competition


Is there anything in the list that you identify with? If you can list the things that make you feel positive about yourself from more than one of these domains, then you will be more resilient.


Even if you should struggle in one aspect of life, you’ll have others to support you during this time.


There is way we can build self-esteem based on facts and evidence.


This is a three-point process of self-awareness, self-motivation, and self-affirmation.


What’s more, it can be done by anyone.


Resilience is a skill we learn through experience, not something we are simply born with.


If you’d like to learn more – and how – the answer is in BounceBack’s Developing Resilience eLearning course.


Take care,

Team BounceBack

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