One of the common questions we’re asked is “how can I help other people become more resilient?”.
This comes from people who generally have a duty of care for others in a professional environment, such as employees, students, or children at school.
Here are some quick tips we can recommend:
Empowerment – The knowledge that we have the power to change a situation is key to resilience. This is the practice of ‘learned optimism’. Employees can experience this by being given the freedom to carry out their role without micromanagement or interference.
Young people can be taught that most of life’s events do not occur due to fate or destiny. Most things that happen are the result of our own choices and actions, so they do have influence over the direction their life takes.
Build self-esteem – To be resilient, people of all ages need to be able to feel good about themselves. Mentors and managers should offer positive reinforcement wherever possible when it is deserved.
Self-esteem always needs to be held with a dose of humility, however. Too much self-esteem leads to narcissism. Praise and special attention is always worth more when given for hard work and effort, and will help foster a growth mindset.
Communicate – Trust between mentors and their subjects needs to be established to build resilience. Knowing that support is there and that they will not be judged gives confidence, and has the knock-on effect of building self-esteem and optimism.
One-on-one meetings and performance reviews are the ideal environment to do this.
Do you have the skills? – Managers and mentors have an incredibly important role to play when it comes to building resilience in others. They need to have the right soft skills and know how to handle potentially difficult conversations.
While these tips may come in useful, you first need to be resilient yourself so you can recognise the strengths and weaknesses of others and know how to help.
As we say in our Developing Resilience course – it’s like the safety procedure on a commercial flight. You must put on your own oxygen mask first before assisting others!
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