The things that build resilience in children are often referred to as ‘ordinary magic’.
This is because they are not extraordinary resources, but things we find in everyday life and often take for granted.
The term was coined by Ann Masten, Professor at the Institute for Child Development at the University of Minnesota.
“What I concluded after a number of years of research was that the powerful engines for resilience, the most protective systems, are completely ordinary and common. Thus the title ‘ordinary magic.’
“These systems are the basic, fundamental systems that help us throughout human development. And they also help us through difficulties.
“It’s much easier to limit ourselves to the things we know rather than end up feeling uncomfortable or even hurt by something unfamiliar.
Getting out of your comfort zone, even if it’s something as simple as going somewhere else for lunch or driving to work via a different route, can keep things fresh. Gradually you’ll become more used to change and may push yourself more.”
This is advice we can all follow as adults. In fact, once we’ve grown up, it can become harder to push ourselves as we become set in our ways.
At BounceBack, we can help you get out of your comfort zone and become more resilient through our Resilience Routine and the accompanying Developing Resilience eLearning course.
The Routine provides several exercises to help you practice how to think clearly and rationally.
If you’ve ever reacted to something in a way that led to a negative outcome, then we can use the techniques to see why.
More importantly, we can then work out what we could do differently next time to reach a positive outcome instead.
Once we learn that new experiences are something we can adapt to or even enjoy, then our general stress levels come down.
And because our resilience has been built up, when something genuinely stressful occurs we’ll have the tools to deal with it.
Learn more about our resilience training here.